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A Funeral Service in Church


The vicar will meet you outside the Church, and will read sentences of scripture as he leads the procession into the Church.


Welcome, Opening Hymn, Prayer

Prayer of Confession, Absolution


Bible Reading  

Eulogy


Prayers

Lord’s Prayer (in its Traditional Form)

The Commendation

Closing Hymn


The vicar leads the procession from the Church.

The Committal takes place at the graveside or the crematorium, or if the family wish at the interment of ashes.


The Committal

A psalm, a prayer and a blessing or the grace.





Collections in Church


Please discuss collections in church with the vicar as they may not always be possible,  (as at Darrington or Wentbridge) or the collection may be split between the Church and your chosen charity (as at Smeaton Church).  This can be a cause of great upset or misunderstanding at what is already a difficult time.We recommend that the order of service requests that money in lieu of flowers be given to a family member, or at the crematorium.

Preparing an Order of Service
for a funeral.


It is fine to have an Order of Service printed for the funeral of your loved one, or you can choose to sing hymns from the Church hymn books

Please discuss this with the vicar and let him know which you have chosen so he can tell the verger or Church warden and so the Church can be prepared and either hymn books or orders of service put out on the pews.


If you are preparing on order of service you might like to include the following on it, but please be guided by your funeral director.


Front:

Name of the deceased

Either date of birth and date of death

Or date of the funeral and age

Name of the Church

Time of the Service


Often a cross or photo is in the middle of the first page.



Inside Left:

Words of the first hymn



Inside Right:

Words of the second hymn


Possibly the text of the Lord’s Prayer in its traditional form.


Back:


Often the family wish to express their thanks to people, especially any who have cared for their loved one


Details of any post funeral refreshments may be included.

Also details of to whom donations in lieu of flowers should be given, and what charity they are in aid of.

We adore you O Christ and we bless you.

Because by your Holy Cross you have redeemed the world.

Preparing a Eulogy

There is no good time to have to prepare for a funeral, whether it is your own, or someone else’s. Strong emotions may surprise you, and challenge your sense of personal identity, or your relationship with God. Even feelings of anger may surface. Very occasionally it is necessary to prepare in advance, for your own funeral, providing information that family, friends, or the vicar is unlikely to know. It is better to share family secrets before the day of the funeral, but human nature being what it is, that is not always possible. Consequently I have prepared these questions for you to use as the basis and structure which you may like to use when preparing for a funeral eulogy. Not all these questions will be relevant, and especially so in cases of great tragedy or untimely deaths. You are urged to contact the vicar in such cases. When preparing a eulogy it is better to type or word process it so that it is legible.

Full Name of the Deceased
Name they were known by usually
N was born – date and place?
Parents names?
Brothers and sisters?
Any surviving?
Will they be coming to the funeral?
Where did they go to school, how old were they when they left?
Left school to work as …
Did he / she work there a long time?
Where did he / she live?
Did they marry?
When did you/ they meet?
What did you like to do when courting?
Were they married - or in a civil partnership?
More than once?
Are there any other significant relationships?
Any children? Grandchildren?
During the war?
If female…did they work after getting married?
When did they retire?
If a Church funeral: any specific links with the Church?
Hobbies
Holidays- where to ? How often?
Birthdays/ Christmas spent with the family around them?
Pets?
Something about their character…