Preparing a Eulogy
There is no good time to have to prepare for a funeral, whether it is your own, or someone else’s. Strong emotions may surprise you, and challenge your sense of personal identity, or your relationship with God. Even feelings of anger may surface. Very occasionally it is necessary to prepare in advance, for your own funeral, providing information that family, friends, or the vicar is unlikely to know. It is better to share family secrets before the day of the funeral, but human nature being what it is, that is not always possible. Consequently I have prepared these questions for you to use as the basis and structure which you may like to use when preparing for a funeral eulogy. Not all these questions will be relevant, and especially so in cases of great tragedy or untimely deaths. You are urged to contact the vicar in such cases. When preparing a eulogy it is better to type or word process it so that it is legible.
Full Name of the Deceased
Name they were known by usually
N was born – date and place?
Brothers and sisters?
Will they be coming to the funeral?
Where did they go to school, how old were they when they left?
Left school to work as …
Did he / she work there a long time?
Where did he / she live?
Did they marry?
When did you/ they meet?
What did you like to do when courting?
Were they married - or in a civil partnership?
More than once?
Are there any other significant relationships?
Any children? Grandchildren?
During the war?
If female…did they work after getting married?
When did they retire?
If a Church funeral: any specific links with the Church?
Holidays- where to ? How often?
Birthdays/ Christmas spent with the family around them?
Something about their character…